On Self-pity

Quotes on Self-Pity:

"Self-pity is a death that has no resurrection,
a sinkhole from which no rescuing hand can
drag you because you have chosen to sink.

Elizabeth Elliot"

"Self-pity is one of the most unhappy and consuming defects that we know.
It is a bar to all spiritual progress and can cut off all effective communication
with our fellows because of its inordinate demands for attention and sympathy.
It is a maudlin form of martyrdom, which we can ill afford.

Bill"

"Being wrapped up in self-pity completely spoils any chance of being able to see new possibilities as they appear. Besides, no one likes sour milk!"

One place infers self-pity comes from fear:
So says this:

"Lack of choice is an illusion masked by fear. Remove the fear, and we realize we have more choices than we could imagine. Just think of the possibilities (choices) if fear was not present! It’s fear that keeps us from realizing we do have choices."
and

"Why do many of us fear change? It's because change requires abandonment of old habits and beliefs. Understandably, we are reluctant to give up completely the beliefs that we have rigidly adhered to for so long."

Stephen Fry on Self-pity:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_2kelqYz_o