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Judgement from Others

Post  Mark on Wed Mar 21, 2012 12:06 am

Another great post from Sociallypositive.com


Approval doesn’t matter. Doing your best is all that matters.
Judgment doesn’t matter. Your inherent unconditional value is all that matters.

People are imperfect and many are wrongdoers so they are literally not able to disapprove of you or judge you!!!

An imperfect or wrongdoing person cannot dissaprove of another.
An imperfect or wrongdoing person cannot judge another.

There is also zero danger in being dissaproved of and judged. There is no threat – you are safe.

Judgment and disapproval suggests “you are unacceptable.”

A person who believes they are unacceptable will Self Destruct. This belief is too stressful to hold so they might drink too much, take drugs, overeat, isolate themself, hurt themself, kill themself, and/or behave in a way to lead to others hurting or killing them.

Judgment and disapproval then is wrongdoing.

Anyone who judges is being imperfect or a wrongdoer because you have to have a lack of knowledge and awareness to make a judgment otherwise this person would know instead of judge.

Why do you give judgment and disapproval authority and power?

Maybe because you sense that they are right – they are being fearless and blunt and don’t care enough about you. “Therefore their messages must be right” right?

People may judge and disapprove about:
You not being good enough as a person
Your appearance not being good enough
Your occupation not being good enough
Your wants and desires not being good enough
Your interests not being good enough
Your lifestyle not being good enough
Your results in anything not being good enough
Your individuality not being good enough
Your level of achievement not being good enough
Your body not being good enough
Your face not being good enough
Your hair not being good enough
Your life not being good enough
Your differences not being good enough
Your social skills not being good enough
Your actions not being good enough
Your appeal not being good enough
Your likableness not being good enough
Your level of imperfectness not being good enough
Your intelligence not being good enough
Your level of sophistication not being good enough
Your level of “coolness?” not being good enough
Anything related to you or about you not being good enough

People still may judge and disapprove, however that would be embarassing and ridiculous since they themself are imperfect or wrongdoers.

Judgment and disapproval is useless therefore worthless and unworthy. It doesn’t help – doesn’t understand. It doesn’t seek to authentically help and doesn’t seek to authentically understand. Judgment and disapproval is embarassingly and ridiculously intended to actually damage someones self esteem. Judgment and dissaproval therefore shows a behavior problem in the person who engages in it.

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