Derren Brown makes shy man go speed-dating

1) https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=JCC0KF3oX9g

and
2) https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=QoTQPU3lak4

Some abstracts from the video:

"'it appears Jason has already convinced himself that girls won't be interested in him, and this is projected with all his body language and conversation. He makes little attempt to make eye contact, or smile. His arms are folded in a defensive manner and conversations end before they've begun"

And then says:
"Confidence is not something that you have, or haven't got. All that seperates the underconfident from the confident person is how he chooses to behave in new situations"

And:
"We often decide we're not capable, not interesting enough and settle for blandness and routine. We also think that being more confident is being someone we're not -which doesn't have to be the case at all. It's just about exercising our best aspects and learning new patterns of behaviour which do us justice "