Common Self-defeating Beliefs:

1. Emotional perfectionism: "I should always feel happy, confident and in control of my emotions"

2. Performance perfectionisim: "I must never fail or make a mistake."

3. Perceived perfectionism: "People will not love and accept me as a flawed and vulnerable human being"

4. Fear of disapproval or criticism: "I need everybody's approval to be worthwhile"

5. Fear of rejection: "If I'm not loved, then life is not worth living"

6. Fear of being alone: "If I'm alone, then I'm bound to feel miserable and unfulfilled"

7. Fear of failure: "My worthwhileness depends on my achievements(or my intelligence or status or attractiveness)."

8 Conflict phobia: "People who love each other shouldn't fight"

9. Emotophobia: "I should not feel angry, anxious, inadequate, jealous or vulnerable."

10. Entitlement: "People should always be the way I expect them to be".